Being Accepted

At some point in time in our lives we have worried how people viewed us. From the way we look, the clothes we were, and the we act. Some people let this worry run their lives. They have to have the best clothes, body, and act a certain way. The biggest reason people worry about all this is they want to excepted by their peers. Many people think when you talk about being accepted it means being popular or being in the “popular” group but that is untrue. I have know people that have just wanted to fit in with different group besides the “popular” group. When you hear all this you probably think of junior high or high school students but wanting to accepted does not end once you are out of school. Wanting to be excepted that happens your whole live, in once shape or another. There are many times a person wants to feel accepted.  From wanting to fit into a group at school to being new at a work place and wanting to feel welcomed by your coworkers. In order to be accepted many times we change to fit the profile of the people we are waning to fit in with. Some of those changes can be minor but some of the time those changes are major. I have known people that have colored their hair, starved themselves, and did something they never really wanted to do just to be accepted. Once these people get to where they think they want to be it tends to not be anything that they expected it to be. The people they wanted to be there friends are their so called “friends” but if they were true friends you would not have had to change just to be part of their group. By that time they have forgotten who they really are, which can lead to being unhappy. I asked a friend why she thought people changed to fit in and this is what she said, “People in general mostly change to fit in because they just want more and are insecure. They already have friends but hey they want to be the most popular kid on the street, so they change to get more friends or even "better", "cooler" ones to them. Everyone wants to fit in and feel wanted but they don't know that changing themselves to make them more like someone or something else won't help that problem and turns them into jerks a lot of the time.” After people change they tend to wish they could just be themselves again and not have to put on an act. If you just be yourself you will build more self confidence and be truly happy. If you are yourself you will find friends that care about you for who you are and not ask you to change for any reason.